Hello Comrades,
Thank you for sharing this work with this amazing population.
I have seen this in myself and others and I shine light to bring awareness.
When I work, with non verbal kids.
I have needs of my own. (I need to feel intuitive and connected.)
I use this lens to look at what is happening between the child and I, and inevitably I find what Imm looking for.
We all find or create what we understand to be true again and again. It validates us.
Here's the reminder:
They are their own person.
We are projectors.
They (if non verbal) are not in a position to set us straight.
So we need to stay aware of our needs, our lenses, and keep that in our consciousness while we do the work.
Monday, March 23, 2015
Matching their internal state
He's exacting on his environment how he feels.
When he's in pain or agitated, he may pull my hair. It seems he's trying to get my reaction to match his internal state.
It seems this way when bouncing, waving fingers or beads close to his face. He may be seeking the input, making the world more exciting for a moment, or he may be looking to create in the wotld a match for how he's feeling.
I choose music that highlights and intensifies how I'm feeling. Sometimes I seek out a sad movie because I need to cry. Sometimes I seek a hug b/c I need comfort. Their behavior seems to serve this function too.
My goal is to hold the space, be deeply present, and have his state match mine.
When he's in pain or agitated, he may pull my hair. It seems he's trying to get my reaction to match his internal state.
It seems this way when bouncing, waving fingers or beads close to his face. He may be seeking the input, making the world more exciting for a moment, or he may be looking to create in the wotld a match for how he's feeling.
I choose music that highlights and intensifies how I'm feeling. Sometimes I seek out a sad movie because I need to cry. Sometimes I seek a hug b/c I need comfort. Their behavior seems to serve this function too.
My goal is to hold the space, be deeply present, and have his state match mine.
A deep suspicion, you are perfect already
When Mike and I were talking I said God is in everything.
I said my daily prayer these days is, "May I be aware when God reveals himself to me."
Mike questioned, "But you believe God is in everything...?"
"That is precisely why he is so hard to see."
That is precisely why it is difficult to remain aware of the presence.
My deep suspicion is you are perfect as you are.
Elizabeth Gilbert wrote in Eat, Pray, Love, " God shows up in you as you."
Yes, I believe so.
I am less interested in changing you, and more interested in coming to understand and witness your divinity exactly as you are.
I said my daily prayer these days is, "May I be aware when God reveals himself to me."
Mike questioned, "But you believe God is in everything...?"
"That is precisely why he is so hard to see."
That is precisely why it is difficult to remain aware of the presence.
My deep suspicion is you are perfect as you are.
Elizabeth Gilbert wrote in Eat, Pray, Love, " God shows up in you as you."
Yes, I believe so.
I am less interested in changing you, and more interested in coming to understand and witness your divinity exactly as you are.
Transpersonal Research on Autism... Yes Please
Will Transpersonal Psychology take a meaningful role in research? I know my area of study. Here's the first bud I've seen on this early emergence.
Do i get to create transpersonal research to support the autistic population?
Dan Gaylin from ITP Got me thinking about it
From the Department of Developmental Psychology of the Autonomous University of Madrid (Spain) it is being conducted an independent research to know the current state of transpersonal psychology worldwide and its relation with science and quantitative research.
Research on the current state of transpersonal psychology
Thank you, we have registered your answer.
You will see the results of this research in a chapter of the forthcoming book edited by Douglas MacDonald and Manuel Almendro that will be announced in: www.oxigeme.com
Do i get to create transpersonal research to support the autistic population?
Dan Gaylin from ITP Got me thinking about it
From the Department of Developmental Psychology of the Autonomous University of Madrid (Spain) it is being conducted an independent research to know the current state of transpersonal psychology worldwide and its relation with science and quantitative research.
Research on the current state of transpersonal psychology
Thank you, we have registered your answer.
You will see the results of this research in a chapter of the forthcoming book edited by Douglas MacDonald and Manuel Almendro that will be announced in: www.oxigeme.com
Dance my inspiration
If you live from your soul/ heart a story will happen. Don't worry about making a story. - christina applegate sytycd
Casey did his best dance where he had to show up and be vulnerable. Christina asked him how do you feel right no, emotionally, spiritually after doing that dance? He says I can't describe it. She said, "you did your job, kiddo. " tears in my eyes. Be moved. Move. Act beyond words this too is your job.
Casey did his best dance where he had to show up and be vulnerable. Christina asked him how do you feel right no, emotionally, spiritually after doing that dance? He says I can't describe it. She said, "you did your job, kiddo. " tears in my eyes. Be moved. Move. Act beyond words this too is your job.
The role of Rigidity and Choice
Acceptance and Committment Therapy explores the meanings people ascribe to a situation. ( What meaning do my ASD kids ascribe? Whatever it is, it rocks them to their core if they can't get their way.)
One thought: getting to choose and having it come to pass build self-efficacy.
Remember how preschoolers have to bounce off of you to know who they are. It's more like they bounce an idea/ self concept off us and if it doesn't come back as Yes, it's as if they don't exist. ( and this is disturbing) one child would say everything in the universe is off (gravity for ex) if he can't make sense of the situation and his role in it. Missing a well developed pre frontal cortex telling him. Later, first I need to deal w/ this error message is catastrophic.
Is it, not trusting he can deal with whatever comes up?
It's more... Not getting to print... Not recreating his rigidity is majorly disruptive. (Aren't we all like this. We live in routine b/c it's one less thing to think about, to perceive as new stimulus. And what if you were hyper sensitive to stimuli. You would use rigidity to exhale. At least this will be so. / it's as if it is not So everything you thought you could trust in the universe is also no longer true. Hmmmmm.....
Bk persons in context p.148
Effectiveness rests on a persons ability to adapt. (My children's bk. either this or that, both are okay) this is a cornerstone.
One thought: getting to choose and having it come to pass build self-efficacy.
Remember how preschoolers have to bounce off of you to know who they are. It's more like they bounce an idea/ self concept off us and if it doesn't come back as Yes, it's as if they don't exist. ( and this is disturbing) one child would say everything in the universe is off (gravity for ex) if he can't make sense of the situation and his role in it. Missing a well developed pre frontal cortex telling him. Later, first I need to deal w/ this error message is catastrophic.
Is it, not trusting he can deal with whatever comes up?
It's more... Not getting to print... Not recreating his rigidity is majorly disruptive. (Aren't we all like this. We live in routine b/c it's one less thing to think about, to perceive as new stimulus. And what if you were hyper sensitive to stimuli. You would use rigidity to exhale. At least this will be so. / it's as if it is not So everything you thought you could trust in the universe is also no longer true. Hmmmmm.....
Bk persons in context p.148
Effectiveness rests on a persons ability to adapt. (My children's bk. either this or that, both are okay) this is a cornerstone.
Be- coming
Speaking your truth is prayer, whatever you're feeling. Speaking your truth puts you in the center of God.
Keep to the moving truth within you
A pattern will emerge
Alisha
It's not just showing up in every room as me (some fixed externally perceptible version of me.)
It's showing up in touch with the changing tides of your becoming unsure of what will be revealed or hidden and ultimately how that will be received. The goal is to experience and express the current state of your soul even in the face of a bossy people harping & telling you to do it differently. - Brene Brown
Jesus always knew who he was.
And that might be the very characteristic that set him apart. Never people pleasing, he knew he was amazing, the son of God ( as we all are), and he showed up as himself fearlessly , courageously, and consistently.
He experienced his divinity and expressed his heart in every moment.
Keep to the moving truth within you
A pattern will emerge
Alisha
It's not just showing up in every room as me (some fixed externally perceptible version of me.)
It's showing up in touch with the changing tides of your becoming unsure of what will be revealed or hidden and ultimately how that will be received. The goal is to experience and express the current state of your soul even in the face of a bossy people harping & telling you to do it differently. - Brene Brown
Jesus always knew who he was.
And that might be the very characteristic that set him apart. Never people pleasing, he knew he was amazing, the son of God ( as we all are), and he showed up as himself fearlessly , courageously, and consistently.
He experienced his divinity and expressed his heart in every moment.
Setting goals as Self Expression
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Pema Chodran on Love and Aggression
Pema
Profound well-being not determined by circumstance
God is an open space that holds the question. God is potential.
God is an open space of mind that allows for alternative possibilities.
People can be swept towards aggression they can be equally swept to lovingkindness because they have both potentials inside of them. Because they have the capacity for both.
You want everyone to de-escalate their aggression that will equal happiness and peace in the world.
Maybe I get to be a peace officer after all.
When the ground falls out example September 11 kindness is the only thing that makes sense. And then habit reemerges and we return to aggression and violence.
The kindness comes from not being able to escape from groundlessness.
When you're all groundless together kindness is the only thing that makes sense.
(like when I travel I am humble)
Hmmmm.....
Profound well-being not determined by circumstance
God is an open space that holds the question. God is potential.
God is an open space of mind that allows for alternative possibilities.
People can be swept towards aggression they can be equally swept to lovingkindness because they have both potentials inside of them. Because they have the capacity for both.
You want everyone to de-escalate their aggression that will equal happiness and peace in the world.
Maybe I get to be a peace officer after all.
When the ground falls out example September 11 kindness is the only thing that makes sense. And then habit reemerges and we return to aggression and violence.
The kindness comes from not being able to escape from groundlessness.
When you're all groundless together kindness is the only thing that makes sense.
(like when I travel I am humble)
Hmmmm.....
David Whyte on work
Psychology
Philosophy
Poetry
Presence
Work gives us a sense of power over circumstance
The key human need is to know you show up in the world and you have influence
Like Lukey on the drums
We're loving presence brings out someone else's full expression
This expression includes work
This expression includes power over circumstance
To know them and their essences as it goes over waterfall or in the slow pool
The essence of water doesn't change but it's circumstance changes what aspect of its personality is highlighted
Work asks the question what am I going to do
How I'm I going to show up
Work can be a place to find yourself but you can also lose yourself
How will I help my autistic friends navigate these waters
Philosophy
Poetry
Presence
Work gives us a sense of power over circumstance
The key human need is to know you show up in the world and you have influence
Like Lukey on the drums
We're loving presence brings out someone else's full expression
This expression includes work
This expression includes power over circumstance
To know them and their essences as it goes over waterfall or in the slow pool
The essence of water doesn't change but it's circumstance changes what aspect of its personality is highlighted
Work asks the question what am I going to do
How I'm I going to show up
Work can be a place to find yourself but you can also lose yourself
How will I help my autistic friends navigate these waters
Ram Dass on Behavior Change
The optimal strategy in behavior change, with yourself and every other human being, is compassion. That means, as far as I understand it, the ability to see how it all is. As long as you have certain desires about how you think it ought to be, you can’t hear how it is. As long as I want something, I can’t really understand it, because much of what I can see are just my own projective systems. You must come to see every human being including yourself as an incarnation in a body or a personality, going through a certain life experience which is functional. You allow it to be just the way it is at the moment, seeing even your own confusion and conflict and suffering as functional, rather than as dysfunctional.
The greatest thing you can do for any other being is provide the unconditional love which comes from making contact with that place in them which is beyond conditions, which is just pure consciousness, pure essence. That is, once we acknowledge each other as existing, just being here, just being, then each of us is free to change optimally. If I can just love you because here we are, then you are free to grow as you need to grow, because none of it’s going to change my feeling of love.
We’re used to having these special role relationships, thinking certain roles apply to one, yet not to another, because we’re very attached to externals – do you touch somebody, do you sleep with them, do you control them, do you collaborate with them, do you support them, do you pay them, do they pay you? That’s all stuff of the vehicle of the interaction between two beings; it isn’t the essence of the matter. As you work on yourself through your daily life, more and more you see your own reactions to things around you as sort of mechanical rip-offs. You get much calmer in the space behind it all, and you’re able to hear more how it all is, including your own personality as a part of nature. The deeper you are in that space, the more there is available for everybody you meet who is capable of coming into that space. You are the environment that allows them to do that – and from within this space all change is possible. The minute you identify yourself or anyone else with models, roles, or any characteristic, any individual difference, change is really fierce. Once you live in a universe where you experience even your living and dying as relative rather than in absolute terms, it’s all free to change. There’s nowhere you have to go to work on yourself other than where you are at this moment, and everything that’s happening to you is part of your work on yourself.
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