Hello Comrades,
Thank you for sharing this work with this amazing population.
I have seen this in myself and others and I shine light to bring awareness.
When I work, with non verbal kids.
I have needs of my own. (I need to feel intuitive and connected.)
I use this lens to look at what is happening between the child and I, and inevitably I find what Imm looking for.
We all find or create what we understand to be true again and again. It validates us.
Here's the reminder:
They are their own person.
We are projectors.
They (if non verbal) are not in a position to set us straight.
So we need to stay aware of our needs, our lenses, and keep that in our consciousness while we do the work.
Monday, March 23, 2015
Matching their internal state
He's exacting on his environment how he feels.
When he's in pain or agitated, he may pull my hair. It seems he's trying to get my reaction to match his internal state.
It seems this way when bouncing, waving fingers or beads close to his face. He may be seeking the input, making the world more exciting for a moment, or he may be looking to create in the wotld a match for how he's feeling.
I choose music that highlights and intensifies how I'm feeling. Sometimes I seek out a sad movie because I need to cry. Sometimes I seek a hug b/c I need comfort. Their behavior seems to serve this function too.
My goal is to hold the space, be deeply present, and have his state match mine.
When he's in pain or agitated, he may pull my hair. It seems he's trying to get my reaction to match his internal state.
It seems this way when bouncing, waving fingers or beads close to his face. He may be seeking the input, making the world more exciting for a moment, or he may be looking to create in the wotld a match for how he's feeling.
I choose music that highlights and intensifies how I'm feeling. Sometimes I seek out a sad movie because I need to cry. Sometimes I seek a hug b/c I need comfort. Their behavior seems to serve this function too.
My goal is to hold the space, be deeply present, and have his state match mine.
A deep suspicion, you are perfect already
When Mike and I were talking I said God is in everything.
I said my daily prayer these days is, "May I be aware when God reveals himself to me."
Mike questioned, "But you believe God is in everything...?"
"That is precisely why he is so hard to see."
That is precisely why it is difficult to remain aware of the presence.
My deep suspicion is you are perfect as you are.
Elizabeth Gilbert wrote in Eat, Pray, Love, " God shows up in you as you."
Yes, I believe so.
I am less interested in changing you, and more interested in coming to understand and witness your divinity exactly as you are.
I said my daily prayer these days is, "May I be aware when God reveals himself to me."
Mike questioned, "But you believe God is in everything...?"
"That is precisely why he is so hard to see."
That is precisely why it is difficult to remain aware of the presence.
My deep suspicion is you are perfect as you are.
Elizabeth Gilbert wrote in Eat, Pray, Love, " God shows up in you as you."
Yes, I believe so.
I am less interested in changing you, and more interested in coming to understand and witness your divinity exactly as you are.
Transpersonal Research on Autism... Yes Please
Will Transpersonal Psychology take a meaningful role in research? I know my area of study. Here's the first bud I've seen on this early emergence.
Do i get to create transpersonal research to support the autistic population?
Dan Gaylin from ITP Got me thinking about it
From the Department of Developmental Psychology of the Autonomous University of Madrid (Spain) it is being conducted an independent research to know the current state of transpersonal psychology worldwide and its relation with science and quantitative research.
Research on the current state of transpersonal psychology
Thank you, we have registered your answer.
You will see the results of this research in a chapter of the forthcoming book edited by Douglas MacDonald and Manuel Almendro that will be announced in: www.oxigeme.com
Do i get to create transpersonal research to support the autistic population?
Dan Gaylin from ITP Got me thinking about it
From the Department of Developmental Psychology of the Autonomous University of Madrid (Spain) it is being conducted an independent research to know the current state of transpersonal psychology worldwide and its relation with science and quantitative research.
Research on the current state of transpersonal psychology
Thank you, we have registered your answer.
You will see the results of this research in a chapter of the forthcoming book edited by Douglas MacDonald and Manuel Almendro that will be announced in: www.oxigeme.com
Dance my inspiration
If you live from your soul/ heart a story will happen. Don't worry about making a story. - christina applegate sytycd
Casey did his best dance where he had to show up and be vulnerable. Christina asked him how do you feel right no, emotionally, spiritually after doing that dance? He says I can't describe it. She said, "you did your job, kiddo. " tears in my eyes. Be moved. Move. Act beyond words this too is your job.
Casey did his best dance where he had to show up and be vulnerable. Christina asked him how do you feel right no, emotionally, spiritually after doing that dance? He says I can't describe it. She said, "you did your job, kiddo. " tears in my eyes. Be moved. Move. Act beyond words this too is your job.
The role of Rigidity and Choice
Acceptance and Committment Therapy explores the meanings people ascribe to a situation. ( What meaning do my ASD kids ascribe? Whatever it is, it rocks them to their core if they can't get their way.)
One thought: getting to choose and having it come to pass build self-efficacy.
Remember how preschoolers have to bounce off of you to know who they are. It's more like they bounce an idea/ self concept off us and if it doesn't come back as Yes, it's as if they don't exist. ( and this is disturbing) one child would say everything in the universe is off (gravity for ex) if he can't make sense of the situation and his role in it. Missing a well developed pre frontal cortex telling him. Later, first I need to deal w/ this error message is catastrophic.
Is it, not trusting he can deal with whatever comes up?
It's more... Not getting to print... Not recreating his rigidity is majorly disruptive. (Aren't we all like this. We live in routine b/c it's one less thing to think about, to perceive as new stimulus. And what if you were hyper sensitive to stimuli. You would use rigidity to exhale. At least this will be so. / it's as if it is not So everything you thought you could trust in the universe is also no longer true. Hmmmmm.....
Bk persons in context p.148
Effectiveness rests on a persons ability to adapt. (My children's bk. either this or that, both are okay) this is a cornerstone.
One thought: getting to choose and having it come to pass build self-efficacy.
Remember how preschoolers have to bounce off of you to know who they are. It's more like they bounce an idea/ self concept off us and if it doesn't come back as Yes, it's as if they don't exist. ( and this is disturbing) one child would say everything in the universe is off (gravity for ex) if he can't make sense of the situation and his role in it. Missing a well developed pre frontal cortex telling him. Later, first I need to deal w/ this error message is catastrophic.
Is it, not trusting he can deal with whatever comes up?
It's more... Not getting to print... Not recreating his rigidity is majorly disruptive. (Aren't we all like this. We live in routine b/c it's one less thing to think about, to perceive as new stimulus. And what if you were hyper sensitive to stimuli. You would use rigidity to exhale. At least this will be so. / it's as if it is not So everything you thought you could trust in the universe is also no longer true. Hmmmmm.....
Bk persons in context p.148
Effectiveness rests on a persons ability to adapt. (My children's bk. either this or that, both are okay) this is a cornerstone.
Be- coming
Speaking your truth is prayer, whatever you're feeling. Speaking your truth puts you in the center of God.
Keep to the moving truth within you
A pattern will emerge
Alisha
It's not just showing up in every room as me (some fixed externally perceptible version of me.)
It's showing up in touch with the changing tides of your becoming unsure of what will be revealed or hidden and ultimately how that will be received. The goal is to experience and express the current state of your soul even in the face of a bossy people harping & telling you to do it differently. - Brene Brown
Jesus always knew who he was.
And that might be the very characteristic that set him apart. Never people pleasing, he knew he was amazing, the son of God ( as we all are), and he showed up as himself fearlessly , courageously, and consistently.
He experienced his divinity and expressed his heart in every moment.
Keep to the moving truth within you
A pattern will emerge
Alisha
It's not just showing up in every room as me (some fixed externally perceptible version of me.)
It's showing up in touch with the changing tides of your becoming unsure of what will be revealed or hidden and ultimately how that will be received. The goal is to experience and express the current state of your soul even in the face of a bossy people harping & telling you to do it differently. - Brene Brown
Jesus always knew who he was.
And that might be the very characteristic that set him apart. Never people pleasing, he knew he was amazing, the son of God ( as we all are), and he showed up as himself fearlessly , courageously, and consistently.
He experienced his divinity and expressed his heart in every moment.
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